Getting your fun self back after you become a parent can be a long, hard road. You kinda want to be fun again, but you’re too damn tired to care. Even when you finally get a babysitter, you may have the night off, but you are fully aware the babysitter will be long gone before the nighttime wakings begin and your child is ready to start their day well before the ass crack of dawn. If you’re a Not So Zen Mom like me, you don’t spend a ton of time away from your kids, do in part to the guilt you feel for pawning your kids off on someone else, the guilt you feel about leaving your kids and because you don’t really trust anyone else to watch them. The one night a year my husband and I have always let the kids sleep over at Grandma’s house, was for our Annual Festivus Party. Festivus, you ask? Yes, the same Festivus George Costanza’s family from “Seinfeld” celebrates.
The reason we initially threw a Festivus party in lieu of a Christmas party is due in part to my Southern Baptist/Jewish background. Having family of such differing religious backgrounds makes you sensitive to a more broad celebration of the holidays. The reason why we’ve kept up our Festivus Party year after year is because it’s so damn fun. Just by changing the context of your holiday party, brings a new level of enjoyment to the entire process. All you need for a successful Festivus party: A Festivus Pole, Airing of Grievances (this happens inadvertently…it is the holidays after all), and Feats of Strength. Being married to a former wrestler, with many of our closest friends being former wrestlers and having a wrestling mat in my basement all make this final element of the Party that much easier to carry out. For proof, see the photo below:
festivuspolecollageAnother element that adds to the fun of our Festivus Party is the mandatory White Elephant Gift Exchange we have. Who doesn’t need a Booby Sleeping Mask, a “Fo Shizzle” Doormat, a 1980’s wrestling singlet, a Justin Bieber poster, a fern filled bird cage, a white elephant (literally), a Hello Kitty Snuggie (one of the most sought after gifts), and a Wreck It Ralph fist?
The bottom line is, we all need to have a little fun at least some of the time, especially parents. Giving yourself a break from the daily grind, especially with the pressures that typically come with the holiday season, will help to lift your spirits and brighten your mood. Remember, Parenthood: If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry…So go out there and get yourself a damn Festivus Pole!