If you have more than one child you may ask yourself, is this amount of fighting between siblings normal? The short answer is…YES! This behavior may be normal, but that doesn’t make it any less annoying. The thing that will grate on your patience most is the persistent bickering and tattle tailing that forces you to constantly intervene. The dynamic between your kids will depend a lot on the age difference, how many kids you have and what sex they are. Regardless, sibling rivalry is bound to happen to some degree if you have two or more kids. I may be biased, but from what I can see having two boys, close in age is the worst combination for sibling rivalry. If you have two or more boys, your house will feel like an octagon and depending on your parenting approach, you will either be a referee or a spectator at an MMA fight. Your kids will have a love/hate relationship, which is constantly flip flopping minute by minute between the two. While there will be moments of real tenderness and pure fun, there will also be a lot of yelling and plenty of tears.
The disappointing thing about sibling rivalry is that the reason you had more than one child in the first place was so your kids could have someone to play with. The hope is that between all of those cheap shots, low blows and hair pulls, a strong and lasting bond is forming, but who knows. You see so many adult siblings that can’t stand each other and barely keep in touch. It can be kind of discouraging to think your kids won’t ultimately be best friends when they grow up. Unfortunately, you have little control over how things will pan out. You can try to foster a loving relationship between your kids, show them a strong sense of family and try and model healthy relationships in your own life. Just like everything else in parenting, try your hardest and hope for the best. Remember control freaks, this is just another bullet point on the long list of things you can’t control.
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