With the New Year upon us, it’s time again for people to make unrealistic resolutions for the coming year. If you’re a Not So Zen Mom, at the top of your list will be some variation of the following: 1. Don’t yell at the kids 2. Clean less 3. Enjoy every moment. We call this “The Parenting Do-Over.” It doesn’t need to be the end of the year to utilize this tool, but it is a great time to use it. “The Parenting Do-Over” allows you to start fresh with a clean slate. Forget all the times you lost your cool this past year and yelled at the kids. It’s time to cut yourself some slack and plan on doing better next year. It may be hard to psych yourself up for your 47th “Parenting Do-Over” of the year, but what other choice do you have? You’re a parent and you must soldier on for the good of your kids. Remember, perfection does not exist in parenting; in fact tolerable would be acceptable. Continue striving to do the best job you can with your kids and learn from your own mistakes along the way.
The good thing about parenting is that kids are very forgiving and you can almost always start fresh. Unless of course, you’re a complete psycho (in which case, NSZM can’t help you)! If you’re an attentive and loving parent, prepare to be frustrated and stressed out at times. All parents are, some just hide it better than others. If you’re doing things right, parenting will be the toughest challenge you’ve ever taken on (that’s coming from a 2x Olympian in the sport of Judo). We’re all gonna screw our kids up somehow, but if you’re the type of parent who worries daily about how you may be screwing up your kids, chances are you’re also the type of parent who cares enough to try your very best not to.
Here’s to a clean parenting slate in 2015, even if it only lasts until 6:45am January 1st!